Wednesday, April 25, 2012
The disappearing nuclear family
In 1950, four million adult Americans lived alone.
Today, thirty-one million do:
"In 1949, the Yale anthropologist George Peter Murdock published a survey of some 250 'representative cultures' from different eras and diverse parts of the world. He reported, 'The nuclear family is a universal human social grouping. Either as the sole prevailing form of the family or as the basic unit from which more complex familial forms are compounded, it exists as a distinct and strongly functional group in every known society. No exception, at least, has come to light.' ...
"During the past half century, our species has embarked on a remarkable social experiment. For the first time in human history, great numbers of people—at all ages, in all places, of every political persuasion—have begun settling down as singletons. Until recently, most of us married young and parted only at death. If death came early, we remarried quickly; if late, we moved in with family, or they with us. Now we marry later. (The Pew Research Center reports that the average age of first marriage for men and women is 'the highest ever recorded, having risen by roughly five years in the past half century.') We divorce, and stay single for years or decades. We survive our spouses, and do whatever we can to avoid moving in with others—even, perhaps especially, our children. We cycle in and out of different living arrangements: alone, together, together, alone. ...
"Numbers never tell the whole story, but in this case the statistics are startling. In 1950, 22 percent of American adults were single. Four million lived alone, and they accounted for 9 percent of all households. In those days, living alone was by far most common in the open, sprawling Western states—Alaska, Montana, and Nevada—that attracted migrant workingmen, and it was usually a short-lived stage on the road to a more conventional domestic life.
"Today, more than 50 percent of American adults are single, and 31 million—roughly one out of every seven adults—live alone. (This figure excludes the 8 million Americans who live in voluntary and nonvoluntary group quarters, such as assisted living facilities, nursing homes, and prisons.) People who live alone make up 28 percent of all U.S. households, which means that they are now tied with childless couples as the most prominent residential type—more common than the nuclear family, the multigenerational family, and the roommate or group home. Surprisingly, living alone is also one of the most stable household arrangements. Over a five-year period, people who live alone are more likely to stay that way than everyone except married couples with children.
"Contemporary solo dwellers are primarily women: about 17 million, compared to 14 million men. The majority, more than 15 million, are middle-age adults between the ages of thirty-five and sixty-four. The elderly account for about 10 million of the total. Young adults between eighteen and thirty-four number more than 5 million, compared to 500,000 in 1950, making them the fastest-growing segment of the solo-dwelling population.
"Unlike their predecessors, people who live alone today cluster together in metropolitan areas and inhabit all regions of the country. The cities with the highest proportion of people living alone include Washington, D.C., Seattle, Denver, San Francisco, Minneapolis, Chicago, Dallas, New York City, and Miami. One million people live alone in New York City, and in Manhattan, more than half of all residences are one-person dwellings."
author: Eric Klinenberg
title: Going Solo: The Extraordinary Rise and Surprising Appeal of Living Alone
publisher: Penguin
date: Copyright 2012 by Eric Klinenberg
Monday, April 23, 2012
The unifying purposes of America
Jane Jacobs, the brilliant historical analyst and author whose work Death and Life of Great American Cities revolutionized urban planning, postulates that there have been four great central, unifying cultural purposes in American history. In succession, these have been independence, manifest destiny, reform, and—after the trauma of the Great Depression—full employment:
"In the founding period of the United States, a time when the Copernican, Newtonian, and Cartesian Enlightenment had succeeded both medievalism and the Renaissance, the cultural purpose became independence. Not for nothing was the charter of reasons behind the war of separation from Britain called the Declaration of Independence, and July Fourth called Independence Day. An accompanying cult developed around liberty, as symbolized by both the Liberty Bell and the aims of the French Revolution. Independence and liberty were succeeded by the related freedom, indeed by two conflicting versions of freedom: the political freedom of states' rights, offshoot of independence, and the social freedom of abolition of slavery, offshoot of liberty.
"In the decades after the Civil War, and the bloodletting that seemed briefly to resolve the conflict between concepts of freedom, there was no obvious American cultural consensus on the purpose of life, although there were contenders, such as the Manifest Destiny of America's push westward, which had already risen to its height in the 1840s with the Mexican War, the annexation of Texas, and the purchase of California and New Mexico. Manifest Destiny was extended at the turn of the century by President Theodore Roosevelt to the Caribbean and the Pacific with the Spanish-American War, which was taken by Americans to mean American rule over the Western Hemisphere.
"The start of the twentieth century and the decades immediately before and after were a time of reforming ferment as Americans sought to perfect their society by eliminating child labor, extending the vote to women, combating corruption and fraud, embracing public health measures and their enforcement, prohibiting the sale of alcohol, outlawing monopolies as restraints on trade, initiating environmental conservation through national parks (a favorite of Theodore Roosevelt's), improving working conditions and protecting the rights of labor, and pursuing many other practical reforms into which their proponents threw themselves with ardor as great as if each of these aims were indeed the purpose of life.
"The reforming spirit carried into the Great Depression years, with President Franklin Roosevelt's promotion of the Four Freedoms, linking economic aims (freedom from want) to human rights (freedom from fear) and his practical measures for making the links tangible, among them his successful advocacy of collective bargaining under the Robert F. Wagner proposals that became the National Labor Relations Act, and his institution of a regulatory Securities and Exchange Commission (SEC), making rules for public corporations' disclosures and reining in speculative manipulations in corporate stocks. Eleanor Roosevelt, Franklin's wife, for her part, channeled her lifelong experience with smallish reform movements into advocacy of the United Nations and, most notably, into that body's formulation and acceptance of a declaration of universal human rights, her chief legacy and monument. Among all these and other contenders for the American purpose of life, one seemed to win out, less with fanfare than with simple quiet acceptance: the American dream, the ideal that each generation of whites, whether immigrant or native-born, was to become more successful and prosperous than the parent generation. ...
"After the war was over, during the euphoria of victory and the minor booms of the Marshall Plan and the Korean War, a consensus formed and hardened across North America. If it had been voiced, it would have gone something like this: 'We can endure meaningful trials and overcome them. But never again—never, never—will we suffer the meaningless disaster of mass unemployment.' ...
"From the 1950s on, American culture's gloss on the purpose of life became assurance of full employment: jobs. Arguably, this has remained the American purpose of life, in spite of competition from the Cold War with the Soviet Union, and maybe even from the War on Terrorism, in which postwar reconstruction was linked with contracts for American companies and hence jobs for Americans."
author: Jane Jacobs
title: Dark Age Ahead
publisher: Random House
date: Copyright 2004 by Jane Jacobs
pages: 55-57
Sunday, January 22, 2012
Why we now....... Love the snow !
Sunday , January 22, 2012
White, pure white snow flakes blankets our little village.
There are no cars, trucks or coal burnning chimneys to pollute , just pure white, crispy and wet snow. The boys are bob sledding, tobaganing and even a couple of them are skiing down a narrow road where they built a hump at the bottom, which is a perfect spine breaker as they come down from the jolt that throws them heaven's way. I am out with shovel and snow broom, clearing a path from the gate to our kitchen. My better half, and I mean it figuretevly is also out, hanging the clothes to dry under the covered part of our entrance.
Laughter, screaming and shreeks are all we hear, when we look, and watch them as tears flow down their faces from laughter and the cold, we smile , as they do this for hours.......yes, hours.
When we lived in Budapest, we would "shlep the boys to Normafa", the city center mountain top
where hundreds of people vie for a bit of space to roll down the hill.
The snow was poor as so many wore it down and our boys complained minutes after we got there that they had enough. We want to go home.
Well, not exactly home but to the mall, where there were movies, bowling and many fine restaurants. No matter what and how much we did , somehow mom and I felt that they always wanted more, more and more! Never satisfied, not really complete, definetly not fullfilled.
Here, on the other hand, they come home starving and whatever she puts out for them, is delicious. They retreate to their room spent, exausted and filled with the stories and anactodes that leaves the impression of completeness, happiness and a wow of , I did do that!
The benefits of living "past the end of the world" as a friend put it, has many and most are positive.
White, pure white snow flakes blankets our little village.
There are no cars, trucks or coal burnning chimneys to pollute , just pure white, crispy and wet snow. The boys are bob sledding, tobaganing and even a couple of them are skiing down a narrow road where they built a hump at the bottom, which is a perfect spine breaker as they come down from the jolt that throws them heaven's way. I am out with shovel and snow broom, clearing a path from the gate to our kitchen. My better half, and I mean it figuretevly is also out, hanging the clothes to dry under the covered part of our entrance.
Laughter, screaming and shreeks are all we hear, when we look, and watch them as tears flow down their faces from laughter and the cold, we smile , as they do this for hours.......yes, hours.
When we lived in Budapest, we would "shlep the boys to Normafa", the city center mountain top
where hundreds of people vie for a bit of space to roll down the hill.
The snow was poor as so many wore it down and our boys complained minutes after we got there that they had enough. We want to go home.
Well, not exactly home but to the mall, where there were movies, bowling and many fine restaurants. No matter what and how much we did , somehow mom and I felt that they always wanted more, more and more! Never satisfied, not really complete, definetly not fullfilled.
Here, on the other hand, they come home starving and whatever she puts out for them, is delicious. They retreate to their room spent, exausted and filled with the stories and anactodes that leaves the impression of completeness, happiness and a wow of , I did do that!
The benefits of living "past the end of the world" as a friend put it, has many and most are positive.
Monday, January 2, 2012
January 2, 2012, 10:04 am The Unconstitutional Constitution
http://krugman.blogs.nytimes.com/2012/01/02/the-unconstitutional-constitution/
The constituent power is proclaimed to be ethnic Hungarians no matter where they live, instead of the citizens of the state whose constitution applies first and foremost to them. The new constitution must now be interpreted in the light of Hungary’s “historic constitution” and the Holy Crown of St. Stephen, both ideas that have gotten the country into trouble with its neighbors before.
The constituent power is proclaimed to be ethnic Hungarians no matter where they live, instead of the citizens of the state whose constitution applies first and foremost to them. The new constitution must now be interpreted in the light of Hungary’s “historic constitution” and the Holy Crown of St. Stephen, both ideas that have gotten the country into trouble with its neighbors before.
Friday, December 30, 2011
The Fidesz flock
Meanwhile, in the interests of journalistic solidarity, Eastern Approaches offers the following joke, bravely facing the risk of itself being banned from parliament:
Q: What is the difference between a flock of sheep and the Fidesz parliamentary fraction?
A: Sheep have a mind of their own.
Over to you, Mr Speaker.
http://www.economist.com/blogs/easternapproaches/2011/12/hungarys-supine-mps
Wednesday, December 28, 2011
The Swiss government just published an extremely positive report on homeopathy
http://www.springer.com/medicine/complementary+&+alternative+medicine/book/978-3-642-20637-5
Hungary: playing chicken
Hungary: playing chicken
One of the smaller head-on car crashes in what could still turn out to be a multi-car pile-up in the EU next year is taking place in Hungary
Saturday, December 24, 2011
Depression and Democracy
And in at least one nation, Hungary, democratic institutions are being undermined as we speak.
One of Hungary’s major parties, Jobbik, is a nightmare out of the 1930s: it’s anti-Roma (Gypsy), it’s anti-Semitic, and it even had a paramilitary arm. But the immediate threat comes from Fidesz, the governing center-right party.
http://www.nytimes.com/2011/12/12/opinion/krugman-depression-and-democracy.html?_r=4&src=tp&smid=fb-share#h[]

http://www.nytimes.com/2011/12/12/opinion/krugman-depression-and-democracy.html?_r=4&src=tp&smid=fb-share#h[]
Friday, December 23, 2011
"Holiday Snow Angel."
Just in time for the holidays, the Hubble Space Telescope
has delivered an amazing view of a cosmic event that is being called the
"Holiday Snow Angel."
The image captures a compact star-forming region in the constellation Cygnus
that is 2,000 light years away from Earth. All the commotion is being caused by
the formation of a star called S106 IR that is found in the center of the image.
Check out the picture! But don't get too close. Hubble spokesman Ray Villard told CNN:
"A super-hot star much larger than our sun has twin blowtorches of hot gas shooting
out into space. The star is destined for a short life and will then explode as
a supernova, disintegrating everything around it."
http://bigthink.us1.list-manage1.com/track/click?u=f4d80d83b2b3a40cbc4ddaf7a&id=7f5d6f3110&e=f419df4177
Hungarian Rhapsodies by Charles Gati
In front-page editorials of the leading Polish daily, Gazeta Wyborcza, the inimitable Adam Michnik has depicted Orbán, his former friend and anti-Communist soulmate in the 1980s, as defiant, determined and above all dangerous—a threat to democracy not only in Hungary but elsewhere in Central Europe as well.
http://www.the-american-interest.com/article.cfm?piece=1166
http://www.the-american-interest.com/article.cfm?piece=1166
“Fascist Zombies” From Hungary Threaten EU
Well, this certainly shuts the year down and maybe Democracy as well.
Yesterday Orban Victor responded to a letter from Borosso, with a definite NO ! This is the End !
And now what? Where ? and How fast will it all colapse??
Yesterday Orban Victor responded to a letter from Borosso, with a definite NO ! This is the End !
http://blogs.the-american-interest.com/wrm/2011/12/22/fascist-zombies-from-hungary-threaten-eu/
And now what? Where ? and How fast will it all colapse??
Saturday, December 17, 2011
VISA free US work............
"The project, dubbed Blueseed, would house 1,000 people in international waters, with ferries that take passengers back and forth to shore." A berth in the floating idea factory would cost between $1,200 and $3,000 a month.
http://bigthink.com/ideas/41556
http://bigthink.com/ideas/41556
EU, IMF halt talks with Hungary over central bank
http://www.dailynews.com/ci_19561601?IADID=Search-www.dailynews.com-www.dailynews.com#.Tuxcb-tAKrw.facebook
Tuesday, December 13, 2011
Heller Agnes: értelmezhetetlen Orbánék szuverenitása
Heller Agnes: értelmezhetetlen Orbánék szuverenitása
http://atv.hu/
Röviden ősze van tökéletesen mondván.
Hungary, democratic institutions are being undermined as we speak.
One of Hungary’s major parties, Jobbik, is a nightmare out of the 1930s: it’s anti-Roma (Gypsy), it’s anti-Semitic, and it even had a paramilitary arm. But the immediate threat comes from Fidesz, the governing center-right party.
http://www.nytimes.com/2011/12/12/opinion/krugman-depression-and-democracy.html?scp=3&sq=Paul%20Krugman&st=cse
http://www.nytimes.com/2011/12/12/opinion/krugman-depression-and-democracy.html?scp=3&sq=Paul%20Krugman&st=cse
Monday, December 12, 2011
Another Year ...Another Hope !
Well , it has been more than a year since I was able to come back here and write.
Since the passing of my brother Tommy so suddenly and so unexpectedly, I have been unable to come back and face the world without him.
Many things transpired since, the life that we started here on the farm, has brought oh so many pleasures and adventures as well as hardships and trials.
Life is sweet and great if I can stay focused on the boys.
What a wonderful sight to see David at his best, and Roni is getting there too.
My dad, when angry with me, would say "I hope that you too will feel the frustrating anger that I feel right now, by having a son like you are!"
Well, at first I was sure that he was refering to David, but now I am sure that it is Roni. He just passed 11 and is as much his own person as I remember I was or at least wanted to be.
David who will be 15 next June is a giant and a man with strong morals, ethics and a wonderful sense of humour with a giant heart.
Yes, he learnt at an early age how to melt mom's heart. Whenever she cooks a meal that pleases him, he says " Mom, Jamie would be ashamed to call himself a cook, never mind a celebrity chef, as any restaurant would kick him out to have you!'
Living on a farm was always a romantic notion, that in real life means alot more work than I could have ever imagined. Here I lucked out with my Matild, as she is and has been a farm girl from birth, living in a big city for the past 20 years.
Now that she has come back to her roots, yes she was born close to where we are now, her mom lives less than a kilometer from here and one of her sisters 2 kilometers while the third one, in a big city, well everything is relative, actually 50 thousand people is not big, Székelyudvarhely is 34 kilometers away.
She is there right now, doing our big shopping for Christmas as this is the last of the monies that we have. That is the downside of living here, as my friend Ron said when he came to visit us 2 years ago, and we kept driving and passing small vilages , he kept saying is this it?
No, I answered it's still a bit further, and when we got to The Big city...he said "Hey this isn't so small!" I explained to him, that this our biggie and we are still 34 km away.
So, when we got to Oakland , he was sure that this is it and I responded, two more kilometers, well he then said "Hey, you don't live at the end of the world, you live past the end of the world!'
Saddly nothing is coming together as it should have, no work, no income and no easy roads out as from here it is only through the computer that there is news of the world and even that sometimes goes away, well lately more often than usual, the power failures, that are frequently occouring here.
This past April, while in Budapest, job and opportunity hunting, someone stole my back pack, from my friends house, while we went to get my renewed Canadian passport. That is the only document that I have left my passport. As the back pack had everything in it, my papers , ma laptop, that had all my contacts , and life from the previous 10 years on it, as well as cash and some never again to be replaced memorobilia.. ...you see I left it there , thinking that it is safer than in a car on the streets.
The cash that was there was a month's pay plus all the savings in my wallet, in dollars , euros and even Seychelles Rupees as well as Dubai Dhs ...all gone. Never was the one that gives up, I have attempted to restart another project with my best and longest lasting friend in Budapest. A virtual ad agency, that I could do from anywhere and that I do know well ..........did that for 6 months to face a cold reality that he never really wanted to do the English side as well and that he just wanted to build it in Hungarian. I feel at a loss to explain why he didn't call me , or write me during the 3 months when everyday seemed like a week and a week was a month.......but now I am at peace with that too as he is upset with me, that I have not done what he wanted and that is build it in Hungarian. He is very Hungarian, so much so, that he is comparing the world as backwards and short historied compared to Hungary. He believes and tried to convince me and all about him that there are traces of Hungarians going back 37,000 years. Oh, I always knew that he was very tied to his country but when I brought another friend into the office, and word came about leaving this country as the second friend is going to explore Australia, my dear Hungarian said "Someone has to stay here and build it back up again!" .
Well, now I am waiting for news from the US as that is where I hope to be next, if not then Seychelles.
Both have many more doors and opportunities, and my boys sure deserve more than what it looks now , that this region with its nationalistic and exclusivity from the rest of EU and the world in general is heading backwards to a day where it was the darkest era.
In Hungary they are changing laws, curtailing freedoms, firing people because of race and or religion. Antisemitism is a sport and not just on the streets but in Parliament as well and the worst I believe is about to come now.
Trials are all one sided as only their judges have power, last week the head judges post was awarded to the wife of a right wing EU representative. Elie Wiesel's trial starts in January where his accusers are claiming that his whole life is a fraud and that his tatood number belongs to the real Ellie. Only in Hungary ! This is the only country where they never faced the horrid past of the holocaust. As a matter of fact, some or many even deny its existance. Youtube is full of the Magyar Garda and Google has much about the Facsist Hungary but the papers and on the internet there are now lists of "Who is Jewish" the top 500 and that is all too much.
Hope is real , somewhere else.
Maybe after a while the nice folks who voted these people in, will realize that everything costs much more, they are making much less, that is, if they still have their jobs as Hungary has isolated herself from the EU, the US and most democratic countries, while declaring war with IMF and EU financial institutions. The sensation that had them rally against the previous government, will go away and give this happy go lucky land back to the people that really made it great!
Am very happy we left almost three years ago, as the boys were called bad Jewish names as they boarded the bus home from school....then, I never would have believed how far this will slide downwards, that one of the main theaters in Budapest would be handed over to an open antisemite who was in politics and has a newspaper that always has some dirt to spill on Jews and that is the light side compared what they do with Gypsies and Homosexuals.
So, I Intend with all my heart to leave this area and to go where there is Love, Hope and opportunity to live in harmony not just with nature and animals but with people as well.
As John Lennon so prophetically said in Imagine........and all his other songs...Love concours all.
Since the passing of my brother Tommy so suddenly and so unexpectedly, I have been unable to come back and face the world without him.
Many things transpired since, the life that we started here on the farm, has brought oh so many pleasures and adventures as well as hardships and trials.
Life is sweet and great if I can stay focused on the boys.
What a wonderful sight to see David at his best, and Roni is getting there too.
My dad, when angry with me, would say "I hope that you too will feel the frustrating anger that I feel right now, by having a son like you are!"
Well, at first I was sure that he was refering to David, but now I am sure that it is Roni. He just passed 11 and is as much his own person as I remember I was or at least wanted to be.
David who will be 15 next June is a giant and a man with strong morals, ethics and a wonderful sense of humour with a giant heart.
Yes, he learnt at an early age how to melt mom's heart. Whenever she cooks a meal that pleases him, he says " Mom, Jamie would be ashamed to call himself a cook, never mind a celebrity chef, as any restaurant would kick him out to have you!'
Living on a farm was always a romantic notion, that in real life means alot more work than I could have ever imagined. Here I lucked out with my Matild, as she is and has been a farm girl from birth, living in a big city for the past 20 years.
Now that she has come back to her roots, yes she was born close to where we are now, her mom lives less than a kilometer from here and one of her sisters 2 kilometers while the third one, in a big city, well everything is relative, actually 50 thousand people is not big, Székelyudvarhely is 34 kilometers away.
She is there right now, doing our big shopping for Christmas as this is the last of the monies that we have. That is the downside of living here, as my friend Ron said when he came to visit us 2 years ago, and we kept driving and passing small vilages , he kept saying is this it?
No, I answered it's still a bit further, and when we got to The Big city...he said "Hey this isn't so small!" I explained to him, that this our biggie and we are still 34 km away.
So, when we got to Oakland , he was sure that this is it and I responded, two more kilometers, well he then said "Hey, you don't live at the end of the world, you live past the end of the world!'
Saddly nothing is coming together as it should have, no work, no income and no easy roads out as from here it is only through the computer that there is news of the world and even that sometimes goes away, well lately more often than usual, the power failures, that are frequently occouring here.
This past April, while in Budapest, job and opportunity hunting, someone stole my back pack, from my friends house, while we went to get my renewed Canadian passport. That is the only document that I have left my passport. As the back pack had everything in it, my papers , ma laptop, that had all my contacts , and life from the previous 10 years on it, as well as cash and some never again to be replaced memorobilia.. ...you see I left it there , thinking that it is safer than in a car on the streets.
The cash that was there was a month's pay plus all the savings in my wallet, in dollars , euros and even Seychelles Rupees as well as Dubai Dhs ...all gone. Never was the one that gives up, I have attempted to restart another project with my best and longest lasting friend in Budapest. A virtual ad agency, that I could do from anywhere and that I do know well ..........did that for 6 months to face a cold reality that he never really wanted to do the English side as well and that he just wanted to build it in Hungarian. I feel at a loss to explain why he didn't call me , or write me during the 3 months when everyday seemed like a week and a week was a month.......but now I am at peace with that too as he is upset with me, that I have not done what he wanted and that is build it in Hungarian. He is very Hungarian, so much so, that he is comparing the world as backwards and short historied compared to Hungary. He believes and tried to convince me and all about him that there are traces of Hungarians going back 37,000 years. Oh, I always knew that he was very tied to his country but when I brought another friend into the office, and word came about leaving this country as the second friend is going to explore Australia, my dear Hungarian said "Someone has to stay here and build it back up again!" .
Well, now I am waiting for news from the US as that is where I hope to be next, if not then Seychelles.
Both have many more doors and opportunities, and my boys sure deserve more than what it looks now , that this region with its nationalistic and exclusivity from the rest of EU and the world in general is heading backwards to a day where it was the darkest era.
In Hungary they are changing laws, curtailing freedoms, firing people because of race and or religion. Antisemitism is a sport and not just on the streets but in Parliament as well and the worst I believe is about to come now.
Trials are all one sided as only their judges have power, last week the head judges post was awarded to the wife of a right wing EU representative. Elie Wiesel's trial starts in January where his accusers are claiming that his whole life is a fraud and that his tatood number belongs to the real Ellie. Only in Hungary ! This is the only country where they never faced the horrid past of the holocaust. As a matter of fact, some or many even deny its existance. Youtube is full of the Magyar Garda and Google has much about the Facsist Hungary but the papers and on the internet there are now lists of "Who is Jewish" the top 500 and that is all too much.
Hope is real , somewhere else.
Maybe after a while the nice folks who voted these people in, will realize that everything costs much more, they are making much less, that is, if they still have their jobs as Hungary has isolated herself from the EU, the US and most democratic countries, while declaring war with IMF and EU financial institutions. The sensation that had them rally against the previous government, will go away and give this happy go lucky land back to the people that really made it great!
Am very happy we left almost three years ago, as the boys were called bad Jewish names as they boarded the bus home from school....then, I never would have believed how far this will slide downwards, that one of the main theaters in Budapest would be handed over to an open antisemite who was in politics and has a newspaper that always has some dirt to spill on Jews and that is the light side compared what they do with Gypsies and Homosexuals.
So, I Intend with all my heart to leave this area and to go where there is Love, Hope and opportunity to live in harmony not just with nature and animals but with people as well.
As John Lennon so prophetically said in Imagine........and all his other songs...Love concours all.
Monday, October 31, 2011
Wednesday, November 17, 2010
My Brother Tommy is on his way....To Paradise !
For 63 years Tommy Vizel was a man that lived, loved and helped all about him. He was an ordinary man that did extraordinary deeds for all those around him.
I have just sent a Power of Attorney to his last and best friends, Judy and Joszi Kroo, who till the end were there by his side and are still doing the best with all their hearts to assist in the transition.
The neighbor who found Tommy this past Friday just spoke with the other angel, my cousin Joe in Edmonton and told him that he is concerned that Tommy's door is not locked.
Last night speaking with his doctor at the hospital, I came to the realization that life is so precious and dear, yet we do not think of it until it is too late. This was not the case with Tommy as he realized years ago that he embarked on a road that was too high and good, early in his life, that no matter what he did afterwards, it was impossible to maintain it. This coupled with the fact that he was unlucky in choosing good friends, made life very difficult and painful for him, till the end.
My dear, and very old friend Dolly (old as in friendship, we met in 1961) just sent me her condolences, and reminded me of how many times I have helped and other times tried to help him, but he did not respond well, if it did not suit him at the time.
She also reaffirmed that I should not go to Los Angeles, as it would not help him, nor me.
It is at times like this that I am so proud of this love we shared and that she has always been there for me, showered me in love, selflessly, lovingly, encouragingly and all the while empowering me.
There are others that I think, now they realize what Tommy did for them, introduced them to powerful leads and contacts, yet they never even gave him thank you never mind a dime. Those also are now calling now, claiming their love for him, but I believe that this is only guilt or even worse, they are using his death to reignite old relationships that Tommy brought about for them.
Isn't it a pity , isn't it a shame, George Harrison's classic said it best,
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IuStBNkvwhE
Isn't it a pity
Isn't is a shame
How we break each other's hearts
And cause each other pain
How we take each other's love
Without thinking anymore
Forgetting to give back
Isn't it a pity
Some things take so long
But how do I explain
When not too many people
Can see we're all the same
And because of all their tears
Their eyes can't hope to see
The beauty that surrounds them
Isn't it a pity
I am at a loss for words, and that is not something that happens to me often......how do I deal with the fact that he is gone? Yet he is still here?
No, I am certain that I too would not want to be kept artificially alive, nor would he.
Reni, my ex spoke with him on Friday, just hours before he had his massive heart attack. She said that he was sadder than usual, complaining of chest pains and as usual refusing to go to the clinic for a check up. He also was sad that all his friends abandoned him, save for two the Kroos and Varadi.
Before yesterday we received a letter from Tommy, the first letter in over three years, as we usually talked on the phone, it was first addressed to Roni as his 10th birthday was Nov 4 th after to David and then the whole family....almost as a farewell letter....but when out of the envelope fell to the ground 2x 20 dollar bills, we all broke down and cried and cried we did, until David said that we should mourn him and pray for his recovery, I said no....
we should celebrate his life and told them a few stories about Tommy and his good deeds as well as his friends' remarks, that almost all read alike,
" that he would give his last 5$ to someone if he believed that person needed it more!"....
I wish him Peace and I Pray and Hope that finally he too can be Happy, knowing that it is a new beginning in Paradise, where he was so many times before, but for short periods only!
I have just sent a Power of Attorney to his last and best friends, Judy and Joszi Kroo, who till the end were there by his side and are still doing the best with all their hearts to assist in the transition.
The neighbor who found Tommy this past Friday just spoke with the other angel, my cousin Joe in Edmonton and told him that he is concerned that Tommy's door is not locked.
Last night speaking with his doctor at the hospital, I came to the realization that life is so precious and dear, yet we do not think of it until it is too late. This was not the case with Tommy as he realized years ago that he embarked on a road that was too high and good, early in his life, that no matter what he did afterwards, it was impossible to maintain it. This coupled with the fact that he was unlucky in choosing good friends, made life very difficult and painful for him, till the end.
My dear, and very old friend Dolly (old as in friendship, we met in 1961) just sent me her condolences, and reminded me of how many times I have helped and other times tried to help him, but he did not respond well, if it did not suit him at the time.
She also reaffirmed that I should not go to Los Angeles, as it would not help him, nor me.
It is at times like this that I am so proud of this love we shared and that she has always been there for me, showered me in love, selflessly, lovingly, encouragingly and all the while empowering me.
There are others that I think, now they realize what Tommy did for them, introduced them to powerful leads and contacts, yet they never even gave him thank you never mind a dime. Those also are now calling now, claiming their love for him, but I believe that this is only guilt or even worse, they are using his death to reignite old relationships that Tommy brought about for them.
Isn't it a pity , isn't it a shame, George Harrison's classic said it best,
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IuStBNkvwhE
Isn't it a pity
Isn't is a shame
How we break each other's hearts
And cause each other pain
How we take each other's love
Without thinking anymore
Forgetting to give back
Isn't it a pity
Some things take so long
But how do I explain
When not too many people
Can see we're all the same
And because of all their tears
Their eyes can't hope to see
The beauty that surrounds them
Isn't it a pity
I am at a loss for words, and that is not something that happens to me often......how do I deal with the fact that he is gone? Yet he is still here?
No, I am certain that I too would not want to be kept artificially alive, nor would he.
Reni, my ex spoke with him on Friday, just hours before he had his massive heart attack. She said that he was sadder than usual, complaining of chest pains and as usual refusing to go to the clinic for a check up. He also was sad that all his friends abandoned him, save for two the Kroos and Varadi.
Before yesterday we received a letter from Tommy, the first letter in over three years, as we usually talked on the phone, it was first addressed to Roni as his 10th birthday was Nov 4 th after to David and then the whole family....almost as a farewell letter....but when out of the envelope fell to the ground 2x 20 dollar bills, we all broke down and cried and cried we did, until David said that we should mourn him and pray for his recovery, I said no....
we should celebrate his life and told them a few stories about Tommy and his good deeds as well as his friends' remarks, that almost all read alike,
" that he would give his last 5$ to someone if he believed that person needed it more!"....
I wish him Peace and I Pray and Hope that finally he too can be Happy, knowing that it is a new beginning in Paradise, where he was so many times before, but for short periods only!
Friday, October 15, 2010
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The Guardian, Sun 25 Dec 2011 22.43 GMT
http://m.guardian.co.uk/commentisfree/2011/dec/25/hungary-playing-chicken-editorial?cat=commentisfree&type=article